You’re a coach, so you understand the importance of ‘state’ better than most.
In fact, getting your own clients in the right ‘state’ is all part and parcel of the coaching thing – right? Priming their minds for the tasks ahead, asking the right questions to help them realise their goals and set their own goals, actions and outcomes… none of that would work if they weren’t already placed in a heightened state.
However, how often do you actually focus on state yourself? No, I don’t mean the state of your clients or the state of the ones immediately closest to you, I mean your state. The coach. The business person. The human!
Something I have noticed time and time again when working directly with the members of our community (all practising coaches, trainers and consultants, all of varying levels of experience and success) is that too few of them practise what they preach. The most successful ones (in terms of monetary rewards and overall satisfaction) typically, are the ones that do the same things they do for their client.
- They have a coach themselves
- They set achievable goals
… and last, but by no means least…
- They work on their own state
In fact, they prioritise their own state.
Think about it this way: you’re a coach, running your own business. You’re likely a one-man-band, and if you do have help it’s likely out-sourced, or part time. You’re wearing most (if not all) of the hats in your business. You’re on top of it, but you know what?
Of course you are! Heck, full-time work in itself is exhausting, but being your own boss brings forth a plethora of added psychological, physical and emotional drains. Even if you’re in a profession as uplifting and empowering as coaching!
I don’t know about you, but after reading that, I could do with a little work on my state – and so could you.
Now, you’re tired, and a little drained. You have a session with a client coming up shortly. Are you quickly prepping your notes? Are you checking your emails? Are you thinking all about the thing you’ve got coming up later today, or wondering when your new website will be ready for launch?
… now, take a deep breath.
Your client will be seeing you soon. Whatever they’re there to see you about: they’re tired too. They’re drained. Perhaps they’re uninspired. It’s your job to lift them out of that, and into a place where they can start making change happen. So tell me: how are they supposed to get in the right state if you’re in a low state yourself?
Hint: they won’t
Sure, you can fake it. But faking it will only get you so far, and ultimately won’t do you any favours. At the end of the session, your state will remain.
On our fortnightly webclass a few days ago, Miles (our Head of Coaching) and I got onto the subject of state. Why it was important, and what we could do to bring ourselves into a higher state, in order to do the best job possible, not limited to coaching clients.
Here’s the exercise we ran with our live participants (grab a pen and paper!) and something quick you can do right now to lift yourself up a few notches.
Rate your current state out of 1-10.
10 – at my absolute highest
1 – rock bottom
This can differ day-to-day. Be honest with yourself.
Write down three things – that you can do immediately – that will take you up a few points in state.
TIP: You don’t have to go from 1 – 10, that’s unrealistic! Just focus on a small but measurable improvement of one or two points and progress gently.
Here are mine:
– A short, brisk walk (I love watching the step count on my FitBit!)
– A long, brisk walk (I really love to walk!)
– A big hot mug of green tea
I also like to sing in the car, and often do. But such isn’t always an option!
TIP: a quick state-hack is being aware of and correcting your posture, something I employ when I’m not able to go for a walk. Here’s a good article on that topic.
Do one of those things. And throw yourself into it knowing it will make you feel better. Even if you already feel pretty good, unless you’re a perfect 10 you still have work to do.
If you haven’t got much time, pick the thing that will take the least amount of time (hence why the posture idea is such a good one, it barely takes any time at all!)
Now… wait a bit.
Rate yourself again, on the same scale.
10 – at my absolute highest
1 – rock bottom
Be honest: where do you sit? If you haven’t moved up since STEP ONE, then take a deep breath and try something else. Something a little easier.
If you have moved up a notch (or even two) then do it again!
Make it a habit.
Like any training, a learned behaviour needs to be practised and honed before it is perfected. Doing it once will help, but doing it every time you need it will ingrain it. Before you know it, it will be an unconscious (or at the very least semi-concious) behaviour.
How people get ‘in state’ will differ, as will the habits they form. Some people rise able to get in state right from the get-go, others take a little extra time (I am a self-proclaimed non-morning-person, and I’m okay with that!) The important thing is that you do it. For the sake of your clients, and for the sake of yourself.
And the best part? It’s fun.
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